Do as I say not as I do

So I went to his house and decided I would make lasagna. I had never made lasagna but what the hay, i could do it if i wanted. I had all the ingredients and i set out to make it. Then his father decided he wanted to get items for the rental…

It was a Saturday and the rental had been vacant for quite some time… Months had gone by and no mention of doing anything to the rental home or that it needed anything. Last I heard anything was in January when he had mentioned he had the home he needed a renter for. It is the end of March almost April and now we are on a law ordered social distancing order. Why now?

His father had seen me there before and began telling him why he had never remarried. He did not want to one, marry outside his race, and two raise other people’s children. Was this a dig at me? Then he stated the he should take some time for himself.. Should I assume this is not another dig at me? We had spoke of this months before and I told him he should take time for himself. He stated that he was technically married for 5 years and separated for the other five. Still wondering if he is referring to me? I couldn’t help but think it was.

I asked him if I should leave before his father got there, he said everything was fine. I could come back at a more appropriate time. He shook his head no. So I stayed thinking everything would be fine. After all his father was not abiding by the social distancing order either.

He had lady friends that would come by and occasionally make him food, bring him items or spend time with him. They came daily and he did not see a problem with it.

Fast forward to the present…. I stood there making lasagna as his father came in through the garage. He didn’t walk in as much as he stormed in. He say me first and I just smiled and said hi. He said, “You guys are supposed to be socially distancing yourself!” I just made a nervous chuckle in which he scoffed, “NO, It’s not funny! It is serious. You are supposed to be here and she is supposed to be at her home!” He shook his head and started talking to his kids about the Corona Virus and the risks and how he is putting his kids at risk. Like I am going to contaminate them.

“Is it because I’m Hispanic, because I have two kids, because I’m here, or because you dont approve?” These thoughts just kept playing in my head as I walked out of the kitchen and waited for him to leave. This was not my home and technically I did not have to take it. Part of me wanted to say the hell with this and leave but I couldn’t because he was parked in the driveway blocking me in. So I retreated to his daughter’s room.

So many things I wanted to say or wanted him to say but he said nothing! Just excused his father’s behavior saying, “He just wants us all to be safe. He has underlying health issues so he is concerned” I get where his father was going with this but if he is so concerned then why was he there to take his son on a hunting list to two Lowes, Home Depot, Albertson’s, and Sherman Williams? There are tons of people there and he did not need to leave the house and could have just asked his son to go?

Why does he have Ladies come by and not yell at them not to come by? Classic case of do as I say not as I do…